You have your genders the wrong way round
The gender of this type of connector is denoted by its terminals.
So, your first picture (the connector-half you're looking for) is male.
The other pictures (the connector-half that's already on your seats) is female.
Good luck getting them from Tyco or one of their distributors
Nobody seems to hold any stock of anything anymore, they want you to place an order for several thousand units, in order to justify restarting production :angry
However, the male connector half is available from BMW and Mercedes Dealers (without Terminals or Wire Seals).
Several owner forums for these cars have details of the manufacturers part numbers and availability.
BMW -
83 30 0 402 344
and
80 00 0 610 619
Mercedes -
A2105404781
.
The BMW offering comes with Terminals and Seals with short wire 'tails', but these are only 0.5mm2, which is too small for Heated Seats.
Mercedes sell 'Repair Wires' (as do VAG Dealers), which are Terminals with Wire Seals, pre-crimped to a short length of wire, again I have only found 0.5mm2 for these.
I have the Male Terminals and Wire Seals to suit these connectors in 0.75mm2 (which is the same gauge as Land Rover use for the Heated Seats), but not the 2-way male shells.
Of course, you alway do what others have suggested and replace them with a matching pair of connectors that are easier to obtain.
e.g. - AMP/Tyco - Econoseal or Superseal are easily obtained as matching pairs from most Automotive Electrical suppliers
Paul.