I had been testing the wire from the connector at the key the whole time never getting continuity. I decided to go the other way and plug in at the starter and work my way back had continuity everywhere even the relay that I didn't discover until the end. kept checking the wire in three places between the firewall and the connector and no continuity. I stabbed the wire an inch from the connector and had continuity everywhere. Stupid connector broke at a crappy crimp (not mine).
In the end the truck started. I have a spare starter and a greater hatred of the mad crimper who worked on my truck.